Well, neither are easy. I’m not qualified to tell anyone to forgive. The only qualified Being who can say this is God. You and I have been sinned against, there’s no dispute there. I’ve experienced and I’ve seen and I’ve been told some of the most horrible things that are senseless. Now, if I were innocent of any wrong doing, and I forgave everybody, well, maybe you’d listen, but I’m not. The reason why God and Jesus are completely qualified, is because they are without sin, and they WILLINGLY, inserted themselves in our world to craft the only way that man could forgive and be forgiven. The Cross didn’t just happen. We have daily cross action of sin. I’m sinned against, and I sin. The Cross covers both.
“Be tolerant with each other and, if someone has a complaint against anyone, forgive each other. As the Lord forgave you, so also forgive each other.” Colossians 3:13 CEB